Things not going to plan already this year?
Getting frustrated and thinking of giving up already?
Well this is where we are often told to have ‘patience’ . This is when patience is meant to pop up its head and say “Hey! Try a bit of me”!
Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.
But it’s not that easy is it?
Patience in Everyday Life
Maybe like me, you attacked the new year with a long to do list and a determination to have more trust in yourself. And the first week went pretty well…
But then, for me, life threw a curve ball and I caught a flu virus putting me in bed for 5 days with the added joy of a migraine.
I felt frustration, resentment, sorry for myself, and sheer boredom (No reading or film watching possible and I’d exhausted the Radio 4 drama and comedy archives!)
“What’s going on? I’ve got too much to do!” I heard myself whining to myself.
Where the hell was that patience stuff?!! I couldn’t see any of it as sat miserably in bed or crawled from my bed to the kitchen, to see what was salvageable from the frozen wastes of my freezer.
How I Got Some Patience
But what I did see was one of my brightly coloured ‘post its’ I’d stuck up on my wall as a plan to catch me in down moments such as this…It said “This is good because….”
My reaction was “WTF? What’s good about this? Feeling like crap? Banging headache? Sweaty and wobbly? Oh bugger off…”
But then a few minutes later I realised there was some good in this. I’d been wanting to get back into the restorative yoga I trained in last year but needed practice – Ta-dah!!
Here was my opportunity. I could be my own guinea pig!
So when I was beginning to feel a bit better I got out my props and blankets, put on some chilled music and lit some candles ( oh, why not?).
After an hour of being in various restful, fully supported, fluffy blanket covered poses I felt so much better…I’d shown myself some love and self compassion, accepting that this was where I was right now and it was OK.
By creating space for myself, I’d got some of that patience stuff…and it felt much nicer than that agitated frustration I had before…I’ll get the stuff on my to do list done when I’m well.
How you can get Some Patience
So if you’re having moments of frustration at things not going to plan or not fast enough, I’d like to suggest you step back, create some space by going for a walk, or simply through sitting still for 5 minutes and following your breath.
Say to yourself “this is good because…” and see what comes up…I’m sure you’ll get to see a window of opportunity and not just obstacles.
It’s worth a shot isn’t it? A little bit of patience can make you feel so much better.
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Photo thanks to Keegan McGuire